When I started writing this post it was going to be a post about Ray J and Lil’ Kim dating. But then I thought…”WHO CARES?!” I sure as hell don’t. It did however make me think about celebrity relationships. Are they really based on love or are they just publicity stunts? I say that because most of them tend to get into a hot and heavy relationship when they’re close to releasing a new movie or album.
Right off the top of my head Will and Jada (For some reason I’m not sold on Jay-Z and Beyonce) is the only celebrity couple I can think of who have been together over time.
Now I know there are countless others who are married to someone who is not in the spotlight and that’s wonderful. I guess my problem is I think some of our celebrities are using “love” and “marriage” as a tool to make money and I think it needs to be addressed. We’re in a time where there are so many broken homes and families in our community, and when are kids turn on the idiot box they’re seeing our stars jumping from one person to the next. One day this brother is dating sister girl, but the next day another sister is having that brothers baby.
Leave it to some folks and they’ll find a way to blame this on hip hop (if they haven’t already), but isn’t this phenomenon happening with our actors and actresses, musicians and athletes as well? Has our true commitment, love and dedication to one another as black men and women died or has it just changed with the times? Am I way off here? Let me know.
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Hey Rod
Did you write this or did your Fiance?
Yes its publicity?
But arent you the same person that got on Kpope for softening up as his BIG DAY got closer.
You got lil charmin on this one bruh?
No, you are not way off. It has died. Something in our society has died.
It’s bad enough that everyday Black men and women are experiencing difficulty with commitment and respect. Then you get a mogul like Eddie Murphy knowingly and with permission impregnate a woman and insinuate that it’s not his child. Check out Essence.com for the story. I was not taken by surprise by Murphy though. I always felt somehow that his wife received a raw deal in that marriage.
I don’t know if celebrity’s love and marriages are “tools to make money” but their relationships should certainly be tools to help rebuild the Black community and that sure ain’t happening.
Carmin Wharton, The Relationship Teacher
Author, “Lessons Learned: While Looking for Love in All the Wrong Faces”
http://www.carmnwharton.com
This lack of true love and commitment is rampant in our community regardless of money, fame, etc.
I too am proud of Will and Jada. But honestly, I just hold my breath and fervently pray for Black couples who appear to be holding it together. Others: Denzel and Pauletta, Samuel L. Jackson and LaTanya, etc.
I really think black love is going and gone. Everytime i watch TV I never a household with two parents that aren’t fighting or calling each other out of their names. I’m only 17 and I notice it alot and I’ve seen true love in my family. But celebrity’s will do ANYTHING to be in the spotlight and for some weird reason getting married for two days and driving drunk will give them all the spotlight they want.